Anxiety is not something that individuals can control. It is a disorder that affects millions of people every day. But it is important to remember that it is not only challenging for those who experience it; it is also extremely stressful for those who support someone with an anxiety disorder.

It is emotionally and mentally demanding to deal with someone who has anxiety. It requires patience, understanding, and empathy to help them work through their struggles. Below are 13 key things to remember when you are supporting someone with anxiety.

1. They Are More Than Just Their Anxiety

It is important to remember that an individual is more than just their anxiety disorder. It is easy to become so consumed by someone’s anxiety that we forget that they are an individual with their own personalities, interests, and aspirations. By acknowledging this fact and reminding individuals that you appreciate the person behind the disorder, you can help them feel accepted and loved.

2. They Can Get Tired Easily

Living with anxiety is emotionally and physically exhausting. Individuals living with anxiety experience hyper-tense states, making them ever-vigilant and always on alert. As a result, even tasks that seem simple and easy to do can feel like obstacles to someone experiencing anxiety. Remember to be patient with them and to allow them the space to rest and recuperate.

3. They Can Get Overwhelmed Easily

Individuals living with anxiety can easily become overwhelmed because they are hypersensitive to their environment. Every noise, smell, or action can trigger a reaction. They are always alert and aware of everything that is happening around them. Therefore, even small challenges can be overwhelming. It is important to recognize this and take it into account when planning activities.

4. They Are Well-Aware That Their Anxiety Is Often Irrational

Individuals with anxiety are often aware that their worries are irrational. They understand that it is not logical to be afraid of situations that are not threatening. However, this knowledge does not make their anxiety go away. It is important to be compassionate towards them and not try to dismiss their anxiety by pointing out that their worries are irrational.

5. They Can Communicate How They Feel (You Just Have To Listen)

Individuals with anxiety can and do communicate how they feel. But they need someone who will listen and understand what they are going through. They do not need someone to dismiss or invalidate their feelings. When an individual is ready to talk, be open and listen to them without judging or criticizing them.

6. They Don’t Need Someone Constantly Asking “Are You Okay?” While They’re Panicking

When a person with anxiety is panicking, they do not need people to constantly ask them if they are okay. It is already clear that they are not okay. Instead, they need support, reassurance, and guidance to get them through the panic. If you see someone in the midst of a panic attack, try to offer positive affirmations such as, “you are safe,” or “you are not alone.”

7. They Appreciate You Sticking By Them

Individuals with anxiety do appreciate those who support them. They are eternally grateful for those who have helped them through tough times. The fact that you have been there for them, even in the midst of their distress, shows them that they are not alone and can lean on you when necessary.

8. They Can Find It Hard To Let It Go

When a person has experienced a traumatic incident in their life, their brain stores that memory in a particular region related to fight or flight response. This makes their brain react differently to situations, causing them to go into a hyper-tense state. It is important to understand that their anxiety is not their fault and they may struggle with letting go of certain memories or situations.

9. They Can Find Change Difficult (Even If It’s Expected)

Individuals with anxiety can find change difficult to manage, even when they expect it. They thrive in a comfort zone and resist change. It is not that they dislike change, but that they can find it difficult to bring themselves to do something different. It is important to give them the time and space they need to process and adapt to change.

10. They Need Someone Who Is Patient

Anxiety can be frustrating for both the affected individuals and their loved ones. It is important to remain patient and understanding when dealing with someone with anxiety. Consistently reminding them that you are there for them and that you support them can provide emotional relief.

11. They Need Someone Who Is Understanding

Individuals with anxiety need someone who is understanding and empathetic. They know that their worries may seem trivial and irrational, but that does not make them any less real. Being empathetic and understanding allows them to feel heard and affirmed.

12. They Need Someone Who Is Supportive

Individuals with anxiety need someone who is supportive, not critical. They are aware of their struggles and are constantly working to overcome them. Being supportive and encouraging can make all the difference to someone dealing with anxiety.

13. They Need Someone Who Is Trustworthy

It is important to build trust with someone with anxiety. They need someone they know they can talk to without judgement, someone who will keep their secrets safe, and someone who can be relied on for support. By working to build trust, you can make a meaningful impact in someone’s life.

In conclusion, supporting someone with anxiety can be challenging, but it is also very rewarding. By being patient, understanding, empathetic, supportive, and trustworthy, you can help someone feel valued, heard, and loved.