Getting What You Want and Feeling Confident: Tips for Success
People often remark that I seem to always get what I want. While I joke that it’s because I usually want what I get, there is more to it than that. The truth is, the more I sharpen my skills at achieving goals and the more I learn how to be more confident, the more prepared I am to get what I want. In this article, I’ll share with you some tips to help you get better at getting what you want and feeling confident along the way.
Know what you want, not what you don’t want
If you want to go on vacation, you need to decide where you will go, who you want to go with, how you will get there, and other criteria. Research shows that a person is more likely to achieve a goal that is stated in the positive over a goal that is negatively stated. So, instead of focusing on what you don’t want, focus on what you do want.
There are three key questions that you should ask yourself when you are trying to get what you want and feel confident about it. The first question is, “Is what I want under my control?” Make sure what you want is under your control and that you do not have to rely on anyone else to get it.
The second question is, “How will I know when I achieve this goal?” Make sure this answer is not a fluff answer but one solidly recognizable to your eyes, ears, nose, and touch.
The third question has to do with ecology. Not the “go green for the planet kind” but a concern for how having this outcome will impact you and those around you.
Plan the steps and calculate what they will cost you
When you conceptualize the steps to achieving your goal and you think about the resources you will need to get there, you put yourself in a position to take risks that actually make sense. Not only that, you have reduced the fear of the unknown to a controllable volume that will make it a resource for you.
Stay flexible and settle for more than what you wanted
Flexibility is the key to getting what you want and feeling confident about it. If you have something that you really do want, you know you have the influence to get it, you will recognize it once you have achieved it, it won’t get you into trouble having it, and you have the resources to get it, then you have a green light to throw everything into this goal with one caution–do not get attached to how you achieve it.
Getting what you want can be challenging, but it’s not impossible. By knowing what you want (and what you don’t) and staying flexible, you can become more confident and better equipped to achieve your goals. So go ahead, set your sights high, and believe in yourself. With the right mindset and tools, you can get what you want and feel confident about it.