Why Some People Enjoy Unhappiness and 10 Signs You Might be One of Them

Happiness is the ultimate goal for most human beings, but surprisingly, some individuals tend to enjoy their unhappiness. According to David Sack, M.D., board certified in Addiction Medicine and Addiction Psychiatry, happiness can be complicated, and some people find happiness even in the most challenging situations, while others remain unhappy despite having everything. Eduardo Andrade and Joel B. Cohen’s study on why people enjoy horror movies concluded that some individuals are “happy to be unhappy,” and they can feel both positive and negative emotions simultaneously. In this article, we will explore ten signs that show you might be enjoying your unhappiness, as indicated by psychologists.

1. You Can’t Enjoy Success
You don’t feel fulfilled after achieving your goals, and even if you do, the joy doesn’t seem to last.

2. You Find Reasons to be Miserable
You struggle to find satisfaction in life, and even when everything seems to be going well, you find reasons to be unhappy.

3. You Compete to See Who Has it the Hardest
You feel the need to prove to others that you have it the worst by always focusing on the negative aspects of your life.

4. You Have a Hard Time Getting Over Things
You struggle to move on from unpleasant comments or past mistakes and find yourself dwelling on them for extended periods.

5. You Feel Powerless
Your emotions control you, and you feel trapped, unable to break free.

6. You Play the Victim
You blame others or situations for your unhappiness, rather than taking responsibility for your actions and emotions.

7. You Have Unfulfilling Relationships
You remain stuck in toxic, unfulfilling relationships and struggle to find a way out.

8. You Indulge in Addictive Behaviors
You use alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors to cope with emotional pain, rather than finding constructive solutions.

9. You Don’t Take Care of Yourself
You neglect your physical and emotional health, such as proper nutrition, exercise, sleep, and engaging in fun activities.

10. You are Constantly Dissatisfied
You experience a perpetual feeling of dissatisfaction, even when things go well in life.

In conclusion, if you identify with some of these signs, it’s crucial to recognize and accept them. Psychologists suggest that self-acceptance is the first step towards positive change. Suppressing negative thoughts and injecting positivity into your mind can help you move towards happiness. Cognitive behavioral therapy is an effective treatment option for those struggling with unhappiness, and seeking professional help can be a significant step towards a happier life.

References:
• Anda, E., & Cohen, J. B. (2007). On the Consumption of Negative Feelings. Journal of Consumer Research, 34(3), 283–300. doi: 10.1086/518544
• The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper, 1978
• https://www.lifehack.org/350138/psychologist-says-must-accept-who-are-order-change
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201501/power-thoughts-change-lives
• https://www.elementsbehavioralhealth.com/depression/at-risk-for-depression-try-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/where-science-meets-the-steps/201403/are-you-addicted-unhappiness