Workaholism: How It Affects Our Health and Relationships

As an American, I can attest to the idea that we work harder, longer, and more stressful hours than many other nations. It’s almost like we wear our work ethic as a badge of honor, but at what cost? Elizabeth Gilbert, author of “Eat Pray Love,” recognized the disturbing trend of Americans not knowing how to relax and enjoy doing nothing. This has led to the unfortunate stereotype of the overstressed executive who can’t unwind on vacation.

But it’s not just executives who suffer from workaholism. Many people, from all walks of life, can fall into the trap of working too much and not taking care of themselves. Here are some signs that you might be working too hard:

1. Health Problems: Working too much can lead to a variety of health problems, such as obesity, poor nutrition, high blood pressure, and mental health issues like depression and anxiety.

2. Cognitive Problems: You may find yourself dealing with poor memory and difficulty processing information.

3. Poor Interpersonal Relationships: Your relationships may start to suffer as you have little time to spend with loved ones. When you do spend time together, your mind is often preoccupied with work-related stress.

4. Bringing Work Home: You may have trouble separating work and leisure time, feel like you’re always “on,” and unable to relax.

5. Fatigue: You’re always tired and rely on caffeine to keep going.

6. Negative Thoughts: You’re easily agitated and often feel stressed or anxious.

7. Lower Level of Satisfaction: You find it harder to feel satisfied with life or work, and may question the meaning of your existence.

8. Easily Frustrated: You’re easily irritated and frustrated with many things.

9. Poor Performance at Work: Your work quality may suffer as you try to balance an excessive workload and your health.

10. Weaker Self-Control: As your physical and emotional state deteriorates, you may find it harder to make healthy choices and resist negative habits.

Beware of the Bias Social Proof

One of the main reasons why we work too much is because of “social proof.” We see our colleagues putting in long hours, and feel compelled to do the same. This pressure can be especially strong in industries that are known for long hours, such as law, finance, and the tech industry.

To avoid the trap of social proof, it’s important to know your rights and boundaries. If you are contracted to work until a certain time, stick to that time and make it a point to leave then. Don’t feel guilty for leaving when others are still working – you’re not doing anything wrong. If you’re being asked to take on more work, make sure you negotiate your compensation accordingly.

Try “Different” Instead of “Harder”

Doing the same thing again and again, with no results, is a surefire recipe for burnout. Instead of pushing yourself harder, try a different approach. You may find that this change in strategy can alleviate stress and make work more enjoyable.

Try new techniques or tools to help you manage your workload more effectively. Use time-blocking to break up your day into manageable chunks, and prioritize the most important tasks. Focus on accomplishing specific goals, rather than just “working hard.” And remember: it’s okay to take breaks and enjoy life outside of work. It’s not a sign of weakness, but instead a sign of strength, to recognize the importance of maintaining a balanced life.

In conclusion, work is an essential part of our lives, but it should never come at the cost of our health or relationships. Recognize the signs that you’re working too hard, and take steps to improve your work-life balance. Practice saying “no” to colleagues and managers when you need to, and don’t be afraid to speak up if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Remember to prioritize self-care, and make time for activities you enjoy. By doing so, you’ll be able to enjoy a more fulfilling and rewarding life, both in and out of the workplace.