Losing a pet can be as devastating as losing a family member. For pet owners, their furry companions are more than just pets – they are family. When a beloved pet passes away, the grief and pain can be overwhelming. Months can pass, and the pain can still be fresh. I still mourn my German Shepherd, Chelsea, who was not just a pet but a family member. However, through my grieving process, I have learned that there are steps that can help ease the pain.

Acknowledging that I was grieving was the first step. Psychology has proven that accepting one’s grief minimizes the problem by 50%. Denying grief only warps your feelings and your balance. It is essential to acknowledge the loss and allow oneself to grieve. Crying over the death of a pet is normal, and it is good for you.

Getting busy also helped me. Going back to your daily routines and activities, particularly the ones you did before your pet passed away, can help lessen the impact of your loss. Although some experts argue that busyness or any form of distraction only helps temporarily, my experience tells a different story. Being busy allowed me to focus on other things while grieving. I also found it helpful to take breaks when remembering my pet.

Talking to people who can relate to your grief is also necessary. Friends who have experienced losing a pet will help a lot. It is also beneficial to talk to someone who’s going through the same situation at the same time as you. A support group of pet owners can also provide valuable support.

Memorializing Chelsea was another way I helped cope with my loss. Creating a photo album, a framed photo, or a video of your pet can remind a pet parent of their furry companion. Writing a letter to your pet can also help clarify your sadness and grief. Some pet owners keep their pet’s ashes and bury them in their pet’s favorite spot. My wife and I made a photo album of Chelsea, and we talk about her incessantly. When we miss her, we cry together.

I also found spending significant time with another pet helped. When Chelsea passed away, her daughter Reigne was left, and I made sure she was given the best care. Taking care of Reigne helped me cope with the absence of Chelsea as well as the guilt I felt for her passing.

Finally, talking to Chelsea, even today, has helped ease my pain. Although it may sound bizarre to some, talking to Chelsea’s doghouse and calling her name has helped me feel like she is still with me. It helped me realize how much I loved and missed her. In fact, I plan on adopting another German Shepherd and naming her Chelsea, as a tribute to my beloved fur baby.

In conclusion, every person grieves differently. These steps that helped me may fall flat for others. The important thing to remember is to acknowledge your grief, and the ones that can help you will help you. Don’t deny your feelings, and take the time you need to grieve. Losing a pet is a difficult experience, but with time, support, and self-care, you can eventually heal your broken heart.