As parents, we often find ourselves lost in a sea of anxiety, stricken with the fear of not being able to guide our children through the complex labyrinth of life. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, to question our abilities and to doubt ourselves. But the truth is, you don’t need to have all the answers. As a matter of fact, sometimes it’s okay to refer to parenting books for guidance, like the one my own mother gave me.
Looking back on my own experiences as a parent, I’ve come to realize that there are certain things that our children need to know by the time they reach the age of 15. These are lessons that we can pass on to our children, and ones that will help them navigate through the ups and downs of life. Here are the 15 things that I believe our children should know.
1. “Parents are people too, and why I will never be your best friend.”
It’s important that our children understand that we are their greatest advocates, their enthusiastic supporters, and their guiding lights. Although we will never be their best friends, we will always be there for them, through thick and thin, in good times and in bad.
2. “Think for yourself, that’s why you have your own brain.”
As parents, we can provide guidance and support when our children are struggling to make decisions that they believe are in their best interest. However, it’s important that they learn to think for themselves, to use their own brains to make decisions that are right for them, and not to succumb to peer pressure.
3. “There will always be problems: focus, focus, focus!”
We all face problems at some point in our lives. Instead of focusing on emotions or people, it’s important to focus on the problem itself. By doing so, we can deconstruct the problem into manageable parts and proactively solve it.
4. “It’s not the end of the world.”
Mistakes happen, and it’s okay. It takes courage to own up and take responsibility for our mistakes, and our children should understand that. They should also know that mistakes are just lessons to be learned, and that it’s important to move forward with grace and humility.
5. “Remember what you are good at.”
It’s important for our children to focus on their strengths and their unique attributes. By celebrating their individuality, they will be better equipped to be successful in life, whatever they choose to do.
6. “You are unique. Yes, there is only one of you.”
Each one of us is one-of-a-kind. We are all unique individuals with our own strengths and weaknesses. Our children should know that they are different, and that’s what makes them special.
7. “Let your voice be heard, but in the right way.”
Communication is key in life, and our children should feel empowered to let their voices be heard. However, it’s important that they learn to communicate in a tactful, considerate way, without malice or negativity.
8. “Sex and relationships: yes, there is a difference.”
As parents, it’s up to us to educate our children about sex and relationships. They need to understand that there is a difference between the two, and that it’s important to respect themselves and their partners in any situation.
9. “Social media alert!”
In today’s world, social media is unavoidable. Our children should understand the implications of what they post online, and how it can affect them in the long run. They should be aware of how their actions can impact their future, and be careful about what they post and share on social media.
10. “A whole bag of emotions.”
Growing up can be tough, and our children will experience a rollercoaster of emotions. It’s important for them to understand that their feelings are valid and that it’s okay to express their emotions. We should encourage them to be self-aware and understand how their feelings affect them and others.
11. “Why respect can be your greatest ally.”
Respect is key in life, and our children should understand that. They should respect themselves and others, and expect respect in return. By doing so, they will be better equipped to navigate through the complexities of life.
12. “Learning is not all about the boring stuff.”
Education comes in many forms, and it’s important for our children to be open and receptive to learning in all forms. They can learn from their peers, their parents, and from life experiences. By keeping an open mind, they will be better equipped to learn and grow.
13. “Show me the money!”
Money may not buy happiness, but it’s still an important asset in life. Our children should be encouraged to be financially independent, to earn their own money, and to be responsible with their money.
14. “Do you really need all this stuff?”
In an age of consumerism, our children are bombarded with gadgets and material possessions. It’s important for them to understand that these things are not necessary for happiness, and that they can be content with less.
15. “Keep a love for life.”
Life is precious, and it’s important for our children to appreciate and cherish it. They should find their passion and be motivated to greatness. By doing so, they will live a fulfilling, rewarding life.
In conclusion, parenting is not easy. Our children are unique individuals with their own personalities, strengths, and weaknesses. We cannot control everything that happens to them, but we can equip them with the tools they need to navigate through life. By teaching our children these 15 things, we can help them build a strong foundation for their life’s journey.