Why Being Single is Okay: 13 Things to Cheer You Up
When did being single become a disease? This question plagues the minds of many single individuals, and it is time to bring awareness to the fundamental fact that being single is not a curse, but rather a blessing in disguise. Here are 13 things to cheer you up if you are one of those who dread being single.
1. Believe in Change
2. Have High Standards
3. Use this Time to Learn about Yourself
4. Don’t Chase Anyone
5. Focus on Personal Growth
6. Learn to Love Your Own Company
7. Good People are Still Out There
8. Uncertainty Breeds Opportunity
9. Focus on What You Have
10. Keep Busy with Things That Make You Happy
11. Love Yourself as You Want to be Loved
12. Give Back to Others
13. Be Patient for the Right One
1. Believe in Change:
Whether you have been single for days or decades, it is easy to get discouraged and believe in the idea that finding a relationship is impossible. Do not let yourself be bogged down by silly myths that say it is easier to be abducted by aliens than to find love after 40. Anything is possible if you believe in it and are willing to take a leap of faith.
2. Have High Standards:
Do not settle for someone just because you do not want to be alone. Love yourself and believe that anyone who does not want you is missing out on someone special. Get rid of the mindset that being alone is undesirable, and you will soon attract someone who sees your worth and cherishes your presence.
3. Use this Time to Learn about Yourself:
Being with others can often be an escape from oneself. Use this single time wisely to get to know yourself, love yourself, and discover new things. This self-growth and understanding will benefit you in any relationship you may have later down the road.
4. Don’t Chase Anyone:
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. Do not waste time pursuing someone who does not want you. Shrug it off and move on; their loss is not yours.
5. Focus on Personal Growth:
Jerry McGuire had it all wrong when he said, “You complete me.” You should not look for someone to make you whole; you should already be whole and complete by yourself. Focus on personal growth and become the kind of person you would want to date, someone who others think is the luckiest person in the world to be dating.
6. Learn to Love Your Own Company:
Being single is not a punishment, it is an opportunity to spend time with yourself, love yourself, and appreciate all the great things that you bring to the table. Use Saturday night to have a date with yourself; it can be just as fun as going out with someone else.
7. Good People are Still Out There:
Do not believe myths that say “all the good ones are taken.” You are available, and that already disproves the myth. Believe in yourself and your worth and stop believing the lies that society tells you.
8. Uncertainty Breeds Opportunity:
Do not be afraid of uncertainty, embrace it. Uncertainty means endless opportunities for growth and discovery. You have endless options; just be patient and wait for the right one to come along.
9. Focus on What You have:
When you are single, focus on the positives in your life, not the negatives. Focus on your great job, wonderful friends, your health, your car, and all the wonderful things you have in your life. When you focus on the good things, other people will pick up on it and want to be around you even more.
10. Keep Busy with Things That Make You Happy:
Do what you love and keep yourself busy with things that make you happy. Join a running group, book club, or spend happy hour with your friends. The more you keep busy, the less time you have to focus on the negatives of being single.
11. Love Yourself as You Want to be Loved:
If you have been nasty to your partners in the past, rethink your behavior. If you are being nasty to yourself, stop doing that and treat yourself with kindness and respect. If you want someone to treat you well, then you need to start treating yourself well.
12. Give Back to Others:
Volunteering and giving back to the community can help you feel good about yourself and help you not focus on what you do not have in your life. Helping others is always a good feeling, and it can also lead to meeting new people.
13. Be Patient for the Right One:
Perfection takes time, so do not settle for someone just because you feel pressured to do so. Wait for someone who matches your expectations and with whom you know you can build a quality relationship.
Being single is not a curse; it is an opportunity to grow, discover, and appreciate yourself. Use this time as an opportunity to work on yourself, embrace uncertainty, and appreciate all the wonderful things you have in your life. Remember that the right person will come along when you least expect it; all you have to do is believe in yourself and the universe.