Relationships: The Good and the Bad

Relationships can be both amazing and exhausting. They can lead to happiness and joy, but also to frustration and annoyance. The key to a healthy relationship is to meet each other halfway and to value and respect each other, while harboring lots of love. However, there are relationship mistakes that everyone makes at some point that need to be addressed.

Stop Undervaluing Yourself

Undervaluing oneself can be a catalyst for insecurity, guilt, and vulnerability, which can lead to problems in a relationship. We should focus on our accomplishments, capacity, and credibility, and believe that we do deserve everything we get. This can lead to a relationship based on happiness and strength, rather than insecurity and weakness.

Stop Outsourcing Your Happiness

Dependence on someone else to find happiness can make our happiness conditional. Our partner should be a source of happiness, but not the only source. We should aim to find our own happiness through success, giving, and contributing to society.

Stop Assuming

Assumptions can lead to unnecessary arguments and hurt feelings. The best way to deal with issues in a relationship is to communicate and talk them out. Swallowing our ego and talking about our feelings can lead to improving the relationship, rather than letting small hurts fester and grow.

Stop Trying to Change Your Partner

Trying to change someone in a relationship can make them feel as if they are not good enough. Accepting our partner for who they are, and not trying to change them can lead to a more fulfilling relationship, and help us to adapt and accept their odd habits and quirks.

Stop Comparing Your Relationship

Comparing our relationship to others’ can lead us to find flaws and faults that do not actually exist. Each relationship is unique and has its positive and negative qualities. We should focus on our own relationship, rather than comparing it to someone else’s.

Stop Keeping Score

A relationship should not involve keeping score of who does what, and how often. Each member of the relationship should be responsible for themselves, and should not keep tabs on their partner.

Stop Competing with Your Partner

Competing with your partner can lead to resentment and hurt feelings. Acknowledging that both partners are equal in the relationship can lead to a deeper sense of pride and respect for each other.

Stop Putting Your Partner’s Needs Before Yours

Self-love is important in any relationship. We must take care of ourselves first if we want to have a healthy and happy relationship. Placing our partner’s needs before our own can lead to burnout and frustration.

Stop Giving into Your Partner’s Idea of You

Being yourself is essential in a relationship. We should not let our partner change who we are, as it can lead to living life on someone else’s terms.

Stop Taking their Silence as an Indicator of ‘Something Else’

Silence can be a normal part of a relationship, and not an indicator of something deeper. We should communicate with our partner and ensure they are comfortable with sharing their feelings, without overthinking their silence.

In conclusion, relationships are both taxing and amazing. To have a healthy relationship, we must acknowledge our faults and work to improve ourselves. We must value and respect our partner, and communicate with them openly and honestly. By avoiding these common mistakes, we can build strong and fulfilling relationships that bring happiness to our lives.