Reflection on Disconnection: Reversing the Global Epidemic

In 2009, it is undeniable that our global community is infected by disconnection. This disconnection exists on various levels and in various ways, and it is safe to say that it is killing us. Metaphorically and literally. The consequences of our global disconnectedness surround us, as we witness the planet and the tribe living on it hemorrhaging physically, emotionally, socially, spiritually, and environmentally. Despite our condition, we seem resistant to learning and have managed to both progress and regress simultaneously. It is quite an achievement.

As a species that views itself as intellectually superior to all others, we have an astonishing ability for stupidity and irrational behavior. There is no other species that wreaks havoc on its own kind like Homo Sapiens do. It is ironic that we call ourselves modern man when we consistently create division, devastation, destruction, and mass disconnection.

The disconnection we observe is not only present between individuals in homes, schools, and workplaces but also on a larger scale between cultures, countries, religions, generations, governments, and political groups. This disconnection goes beyond healthy ideological, philosophical, theological, and political differences; it is about the attitudes, choices, and behaviors that perpetuate division and disconnection.

While it may take a while for us to address this issue on a global scale, there are steps we can take in our own personal orbits to create a greater level of connection with those around us. Although we may not create a global shift or catalyze a cosmic awakening in the next week or two, there are tangible actions we can take to foster connection, understanding, and harmony with the people in our lives.

Effective communication is at the core of any meaningful connection. It may seem obvious, but our inability to communicate effectively often lies at the heart of the disconnection we experience with others. To foster genuine connection, we must have a sincere desire to communicate with others in a meaningful and productive manner. Merely talking regularly does not equate to communication or connection. Some people just want to talk at others and massage their ego, but true connection occurs when we talk with people rather than at them.

To foster connection, we must build trust and respect. Without these foundations, true connection cannot exist. Simulated rapport, which is acting or manipulation, masquerades as connection but is, in reality, an illusion. Trust and respect are essential to fostering real connection.

Another valuable tool for creating connection is asking the right questions. Open-ended questions that generate meaningful dialogue are key, as they demonstrate genuine interest in the other person’s thoughts and perspectives. Simply asking “yes” or “no” questions limits the potential for connection.

Active listening is also crucial for fostering connection. When we genuinely listen to someone, giving them our full attention, we create a space for connection to occur. We must strive to understand the other person’s perspective and consider the intended meaning behind their words. Engaging in self-indulgent monologues or waiting for our turn to speak hinders connection. As a general rule, we should listen more than we speak.

Additionally, non-verbal communication plays a significant role in any conversation. Words are only part of the message, and sometimes, a small part. By listening with our eyes as well as our ears, we can pick up on the unspoken cues that provide valuable insight into someone’s feelings and thoughts.

Speaking someone’s language is paramount for fostering connection. It does not matter how much we talk; if we are speaking different languages, true connection cannot be achieved. Understanding the needs, motivations, and language of the person we are communicating with allows for effective connection.

Furthermore, acknowledging someone’s feelings is crucial for fostering connection. We do not have to agree with someone to understand them or respect their point of view. Connection does not require us to share the same philosophy; it demands empathy and openness to different perspectives.

Addressing disconnection is a multifaceted issue that touches every aspect of the human experience. If we are serious about undoing the damage caused by disconnection, we must approach it practically, humbly, and honestly. While one individual cannot save six billion people or change the minds of global power brokers, collective action can lead to practical, positive change in our physical world.

If you have been impacted by disconnection, I encourage you to choose to become a connector rather than a victim. Genuine transformation and connection begin from within. Each day presents an opportunity for you to be part of the solution rather than a perpetuator of the problem.

I choose to create connection and be part of the solution every day because I have that choice and power. I invite you to join me on this journey towards connection and a better world.