Travelling and Chivalry: A Match Made in Heaven

If you’ve read the book ‘Eat, Pray and Love’, you will soon realize that in the topic of love, it’s a magical experience that happens while being completely unpredictable. Falling in love is an accident, it’s a surprise just as what travelling entails. Sometimes, couples rekindle their relationship while others find love for the first time. Innumerable romantic movies have based their storylines on the combustible combination of travelling and falling in love.

The question is, does chivalry only exist in movies? Does travelling trigger chivalry or is it a cliché many of us still believe? These are the questions that often pop up in our romantic minds.

It’s safe to say that when there’s travelling, there’s always room for chivalry. Here are four reasons why:

1. The Strangers Romance.

Growing up in a small town, I, for one, never believed in a stranger’s romance. I believed that if you fall in love, it’s either a huge romantic accident or it’s arranged by fate and parents. Growing up with such a conservative view, I failed to see any possibilities for a romantic chivalrous experience with a stranger until my first travelling experience.

If you say jumping over a fence, being indulged in a mediocre Indian restaurant with the spiciest curry, and ending the night trying to waltz is a movie cliché, then this cliché became my Cinderella story. Sweden was where my stranger romance happened. After continuous travelling for work, I had visited Sweden for the sole purpose of self-discovery.

Hence, if you’re single and looking for an adventure, choose countries you haven’t been to and always be open-minded to what you might come across. If you’re heading to Croatia to bask in the sun and enjoy the history, always be open to talking to new people. In a random bar, you might just find someone to sweep you off your feet.

2. Couples Paradise.

I recall my friends complaining that their relationship had gone stale and both of them had been giving each other the cold shoulder. Over time, some resort to Tinder for a fling while others consider a painful breakup. However, many fail to realize that one of the major problems in a relationship is the monotonous routine, and a spontaneous trip may bring chivalry back into their lives.

For those who practice a constant routine and have an organized life, it’s difficult to be spontaneous. You work, you get back home, you go for a quick dinner date, and talk about your problems. Your partner sees you day in and day out, which creates a monotonous and unattractive scenario.

Therefore, taking a random trip to the land of romance such as France or to the land of mystery such as Japan would give you the sense of adventure your relationship needs. It will bring back the simple arguments and the missing connection, plus both sides will make attempts to be chivalrous and courteous to each other’s needs.

It brings back romance into every relationship and allows you to embrace it.

3. Allows You to Let Things Happen.

In our regular environment, we are rather uptight, and we prefer things being in a certain order. It helps us deal with life and challenges that are thrown at us. This hinders us from being open to opportunities; we choose to have a checklist for our partners and end up being extremely conservative with our choices. This leaves us with very little options and leads us to many unpleasant memories.

Hence, booking a flight or taking a train to a new place and planning for something spontaneous will give you an opportunity for self-discovery. You’ll discover yourself capable of experiencing a different adventure and being able to open up. You might enjoy a nice wine in Napa or you might enjoy a beautiful seaside view, however, the most exciting thing could be meeting someone with whom you find a connection.

Even if you know that after this vacation, you may not meet each other or make this situation last forever, you will be able to open up and have fun. This emotion creates a fresh atmosphere that gives you a perspective of what you want. You will embrace the unprecedented, and those “checklists” will become a forgotten memory.

Travelling allows you to unwind and be yourself, giving you a chance to discover yourself even when you’re back to your own reality.

4. Allows Your Relationship to Grow.

Growth is crucial in any relationship; it’s an important criterion that ensures a longer lasting relationship. However, being together and being attached to your general lifestyle doesn’t give you the chance to appreciate each other. It restricts your relationship from being chivalrous and special; you adapt, and you forget that being appreciated feels wonderful.

However, going on random vacations allows each of you to create surprises for each other and gives you a chance to get to know each other. You might bring her roses or you might take him for a romantic dinner by the beach, but at the end of the day, you’ll appreciate each other more. This allows you to understand each other, share, and be honest with your feelings. Furthermore, it allows you to be intimate and understand each other, giving you a chance for that close-to-perfect relationship.

In a nutshell, in our modern day, if you find it hard to be chivalrous, then take a trip somewhere. Change is always good no matter the circumstance. If you’re single, it allows you to explore yourself, and if you’re in a relationship, it allows you to find balance.

Therefore, take a trip and make the best out of it.

Tags: Travelling, Chivalry, Strangers Romance, Couples Paradise, Letting Things Happen, Relationship Growth