20 Signs That You Have Found the One
Starting a relationship is an exciting endeavor – we never know where it will go, what we will learn about the other person and what the future might hold. Even in the most stable, long-term relationships, there can be a small flicker of doubt in us that makes us wonder if we have found the mythical “one”. Soul-mate, partner, true love- no matter how you say it, that is the idea of ultimate love that we all want to find in our partner.
When we think of a soul-mate, we think of the one person out there that feels as though they were made for us: a person who completes the missing portion of ourselves and who can travel the journey of life at our side.
Uncertainty does no good when it comes to romantic relationships. Spending lots of time worrying about if your choice in a partner will turn into a wise investment of your time is- ironically- often a poor use of your time, in the end. The best relationships start with potential, uncertainty, hope and a small shimmer of a spark that could turn into something wonderfully ineffable.
Here are 20 ways to know if your relationship is one that will stand the test of time:
1. Communication is not something you have to demand: it comes naturally
Communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. When you and your partner can talk about anything without feeling judged or unheard, it creates a healthy foundation for your relationship.
2. There is a process of ‘give and take’ from both of you
A healthy relationship requires compromise and cooperation from both parties. This means that both you and your partner give and take equally in order to maintain a balanced relationship.
3. You can envision your dreams involving them, and they feel the same
Having a supportive partner who shares your dreams and goals is essential. When both you and your partner have a shared vision for the future, it strengthens your bond and creates a sense of unity.
4. They are comfortable trying things you want to try
Your partner should be open to trying new things with you. This means being open-minded and supportive towards your goals and interests.
5. But they are just as comfortable relaxing at home with you
It’s important to have fun and exciting experiences with your partner, but it’s also important to enjoy quiet moments together. If your partner is just as content staying at home with you as they are going on adventures, it’s a sign that you’ve found the one.
6. You can trust them with anything
Trust is one of the most important factors in any successful relationship. When you trust your partner completely, it creates a sense of security and comfort within the relationship.
7. They can see the silver lining to your flaws
No one is perfect, but when your partner can see the good in your flaws and imperfections, it creates a stronger and more meaningful connection.
8. Alone time is mutually comforting- not the cause of a fight
In a healthy relationship, both partners need their alone time. When you and your partner are comfortable spending time apart, it creates a sense of trust and independence within the relationship.
9. Hard times bring out the best in them, not the worst
The true test of any relationship is how it handles difficult times. When your partner is supportive and caring during tough times, it shows that they are committed to your relationship.
10. There is no screaming, threatening or pettiness between the two of you
A healthy relationship requires a sense of mutual respect and understanding. When both partners can communicate effectively without resorting to petty or aggressive behavior, it creates a sense of safety within the relationship.
11. Being with one another feels safe, like you are both cocooned from the real world
When you are with the one, everything else seems to fade away. Being with your partner should feel like a safe haven from the outside world.
12. You can respect each other’s differences and opinions
In any healthy relationship, both partners should be able to express their opinions freely without fear of judgement. When both you and your partner can respect each other’s differences, it creates a sense of unity and understanding within the relationship.
13. You can get along with both of your friendship groups
A key sign of a healthy relationship is when both partners can seamlessly integrate into each other’s social circles. When your partner can get along with your friends and family, it creates a sense of unity and support within the relationship.
14. Grudges are a non-entity – forgiveness comes before argument fodder
Holding onto grudges and resentment can poison any relationship. When both partners are quick to forgive and move on, it creates a sense of emotional maturity and understanding within the relationship.
15. Empathy is natural and never forced
In a healthy relationship, both partners should be able to empathize and understand each other’s emotions without feeling forced or obligated.
16. If you are married, you can comfortably envision being wed again and again
For married couples, it’s important to continue envisioning a future together. When you can see yourself getting remarried to your partner again and again, it creates a sense of commitment and dedication within the relationship.
17. If you have children, you two are a team in your parenting approach. You’re never divided
Raising children requires a sense of teamwork and communication from both parents. When you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to parenting, it creates a healthy and stable environment for your children.
18. You take each other’s advice to heart
In a healthy relationship, both partners should be able to offer advice and support to each other without feeling judged or unheard. When you and your partner take each other’s advice to heart, it creates a sense of trust and understanding within the relationship.
19. Your gut and heart agree that they are ‘the one’
At the end of the day, your gut feeling and heart should align when it comes to your relationship. If you have a deep intuition that your partner is the one for you, trust it.
20. More than anything, you both want each other to be as happy and healthy as possible. You’re committed to this, even if it means not being with them anymore.
The key to any successful relationship is a mutual commitment to each other’s happiness and well-being. This means being supportive of each other’s goals and dreams, even if it means not being together forever.
In conclusion, finding the one is a magical experience that can change our lives forever. While no relationship is perfect, when both partners can communicate effectively, compromise equally and support each other unconditionally, it creates a love that will stand the test of time.