We All Lie To Ourselves. Every Day.

It may seem like a dramatic statement, but it is true. From President Obama to Harrison Ford, Oprah to Billy Graham – everybody lies to themselves. We all have heard the little voice inside our head that tells us we aren’t good enough, smart enough, or attractive enough. And, we all believe this voice, even when it is faulty.

As Tony Robbins said, “It’s not the situation, it’s the meaning we give it that makes all the difference.” How we perceive ourselves and the world around us can drastically impact our self-confidence, relationships, and overall mental health.

The lies we tell ourselves typically fall under the umbrella of two categories: “I am not enough” and “If I am not enough, I will not be loved.” These beliefs are deeply rooted in our psyche and can be hard to overcome. However, it is possible to reveal and let go of the lies that hold us back. Here are ten ways to do so:

1. Listen to your body and your head: When you begin to feel tense or defensive, ask yourself, “Why am I reacting like this?” Pay attention to the thoughts and emotions that arise when the lies are talking.

2. Confront the lies head-on: Don’t run from them by indulging in unhealthy behaviors like overeating or excessive drinking. Instead, face your fears and doubts bravely.

3. Ask yourself tough questions: Do I believe I am enough? Am I afraid I won’t be loved? Be honest with yourself and dig deep to find the root of these feelings.

4. Become your own ally: Affirm yourself and be your own partner and cheerleader. You must be the first to consistently care for and guard your vulnerable, soft underbelly.

5. Take a hot air balloon ride: Imagine yourself gently lifting up high above the spot where you are. Look around and mark a giant X on the places where incidents happened that left you with false conclusions.

6. Focus on your strengths: Recognize all that you are instead of what you are not. Build up your strengths instead of focusing on your weaknesses.

7. Stand tall, shoulders back: Your posture matters. Pull yourself up tall, shoulders back, and lift your chin up. Say, “I am enough and I will figure this out.” It will shift your mindset.

8. Look the lies in the eye and tell them to go sit in the corner: When you hear the lies prattling on, refuse to listen to them. Diminish their power by telling them to go sit in the corner and eat a cookie.

9. Shift your focus to others: Instead of worrying about yourself, concentrate on serving others. Focus on how you can help others be the best version of themselves.

10. Forgive yourself: We all make mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up for them. Instead, forgive yourself and use the lessons learned to grow and become a better version of yourself.

By embracing these ten strategies, you can reveal and let go of the lies you tell yourself. You can live life with confidence, joy and love. Remember, you are enough – no matter what that little voice inside your head trying to tell you. Embrace your true self and live life to its fullest!